You’ve skated long enough! (Child Support Vent)

*posted from cell, 4 give the typos*

My childrens father have worked at the same resturant for some years now. Sometime ago I stop recieveing child support. I was under the impression he had stop working there. He was going thru some things (which I gave less than a real fuck about, cause as a single mama I go thru things all the time but I don’t take a vacation and stop caring for my kids)… So I chaulked it up, and figured until he until he gets back to working child support will take it out again. My friend went to eat where we thought he USE to work at and low and behold the bastard was there, cooking up a storm. She imm called me and told me. I called the friend of court, sat on hold 45min before even talking to someone, then they told me they still have the child support order in place, (translation, child support should have NEVER stopped) read back to me the name of the job on the order, stated they don’t know why I haven’t received anything, and said they would reissue the order again imm, and that the resturant had 45days to comply. Friend of the court also let me know its ILLEGAL for a company to disregard a income withholding order for a employee. So I called up to his job and asked for their corp number to speak to someone in regards to the lawsuit I would be filing against their company for back child support they refused to deduct out of his check all this time. I faxed over the income with holding I had received a copy of from 2yrs ago and let them know a new one was on the way. I also faxed copies of my child support issued debit visa card statements showing 0$ balances and the last payment I received from him which was during a period he worked for them. They tried to claim they didn’t receive such a order….so I explained to them that for whatever reason they “lost” the order and stop taking it out and I am still owed that money, once its proven they had the order and ignored it. (I have the patience of a snail. I can wait this thing out. The truth will prevail) So I have to wait 30 days to give them a chance to investigate and see “what happen” to the child support order they were honoring up until they stopped……moral of the long post is…..

There are too many men getting off scott fucking free and are holding jobs. Legit jobs that give them a check and take taxes out. I don’t know if there giving good penis or bomb ass head to the HR folks or what, but they (the job) are bound by law to deduct that money. So the far the deadbeats getting paid “under the table” which for them will backfire (are able to skate) so to speak. Dumbasses are not planning for the future. Cause we all know, not having social security and taxes took out, because they don’t want there checks touched, (translation, they won’t want “the man” making them take care their kids, since they can’t do it on their own) mean they will grow old and not have 1 penny to help them out in there olden years. Too bad for they dumb asses. however I for one will not sit by and let the shit slide. To the best of my abilty I will continue to advocate for my child support if I get it given me in a reasonable fashion on his own. These kids were NOT created because of some strong masturbation. Since we both made them we both need to provide for them, one way or the other.

Thanks for letting me vent a little.

*UPDATE*

I’m happy to report child support has kicked in. I was asked could I go to court and drop 50% of the back pay. Um, (let me think for a mintue) NO…HELL NO. That is all.

You still Breastfeeding?

How many times must I be asked that. Okay this post is for *you* and you know who you are.

  Yes she is 15 months and yes we are STILL BREASTFEEDING. I never envisioned myself a breastfeeding mom. Let alone working for WIC as a Breastfeeding Peer Counselor. Oh and lets not forget I converted to cloth diapers. Like Woa!  I was that one that thought that cloth diapers was for poor people (who the hell was I to judge anyone and little did I know cloth diapers aren’t THAT cheap,*glad I matured from that mentality*) and I was that one that said “eww breastfeeding nasty, I don’t want no baby sucking on my tit’s plus, I wont be able to have sex cause milk will be everywhere, and I don’t want people talking about me.” Foolishness I tell ya. Young dumb and fulla cum. Looking back almost 18 yrs ago when I had my first child I realize I wasnt as mature as I thought I was. Prided myself always on knowing it all. But look at what I DIDNT know. First and foremost, Breastmilk is the healthiest thing to give a human baby. I could carry on about the other well-known benefits of BF but we know them. Basically I was just taking stock in were I am and how I got here. And how much I truly LOVE my job, and I’m so happy I didn’t pass on a chance to experience BF and giving my Muffin the wonderful benefits of the milk she is made to have. My very good friend Tina and the ever evolving world of  Twitter. If you don’t have a Twitter get one. My good friend Tina was and is awesome. She is currently BE her second child is always a great support and wonderful example of a young mama who refused formula and is planet earth friendly. She might even be even be using cloth diapers soon.  Much love for my Twitter moms who always are a tweet away with answer or word of encouragement. I’m very happy to still be breastfeeding at 15 months with no end in sight as many moms put it. Sometimes it can be trying when Muffin wants to nurse while were driving and the stupid ass truck next to us scared her to death with its noise. Then she screams the entire way home, pulling at my shirt as i get her out the car seat so she can be saved and comforted. Or when I start to vacuum and scare the crap out of her, she screams…I nurse….she fine again. Repeat. ;-)  And you know what, I don’t mind it one bit. So to those who toot their nose up, pass their judgement, make snide low-key remarks, ask questions just to be a smart ass and try to disrespectfully dismiss breastfeeding moms….GET OVER IT. Get over it quick I tell ya, or I will cuss ya out the fudge out. *I’ll pray first, since im working on my cussing* I am NOT one to pussy foot around and be disrespected about my breastfeeding. I didn’t forget I formula feed my first 3. Muffin got formula for a few months as well, until we mastered the BF.  You always had a negative comment about why I don’t just formula feed, when I was going to that rough patch, and kept  meeting with Peer Counselor Renee and going to the LC at Sinai Grace meeting with Linda.  Its cause I wanted breastfeeding to WORK so I made the effort at it and it went in my favor. I know there are plenty moms who made the EFFORT 100% to breastfeed and it just didn’t work out. I applaud them and don’t dismiss them or make them feel like shit cause they didn’t breastfeed or pump. However saying little stuff indirectly about me is NOT needed and NOT appreciated. So take this as a warning that our friendship will end immediately if one more snide remarks, directly or indirectly come up again.  ~Toodles~

Digress of a mess..

Okay so as you all know I’ve been cloth diapering for almost a month now. *WINNING* Getting Muffin ass to sleep..LOSING! I thought maybe it was the cloth diapers. It is not. Just to make sure I put her in one of her luvs and she still was in trip out mode. Just don’t get why some nights we are on the right track. And others we go straight to hell. I nurse her and down we go by 1030pm. Maybe waking around 3am to nurse for 30min. Not really waking all the way and we sleep till 7am. Now…literally like now at 1130pm…she is nursing…playing…fussing…..nursing….playing….fussin. Then around 1230am she will finally go sleep and then wake friggin twice. I mean wake up with crying and batting me about the face and head. She will be 15months on the 6th and I really need us to get on a system of “normal baby” sleep pattern. I’m sure I have a alien pod baby in my mist. I hate being a sour puss about it but if your a mama then you know how important at least 4hrs of sleep is a requirement to stay sane. This digress of a mess is a gazillion steps back. Forgive the whine but I’m sleepy ass hell and I felt like telling y’all.

~Toodles~