These boots were made for walking the path I choose

*posted from my cell, there is no spell check I’m sorry*

We have already established I’m a pitful blogger. Bless my heart y’all, with my every 6 months post. I promise I’m working on it. So let me catch you up on what’s been going on with me.

The Muffin (aka Milk Gangsta) turned 2yrs old on the 6th of this month and is still currently breastfeeding. She nurses at least 2x’s at night…. 4x’s a day during the work week and on demand on the weekends. Were still cloth diapering. She shows some interest in potty training so were moving foward at her pace. My goal is to have her in her favorite Dora panties before the summer. (Tips and Tricks are welcome PLEASE) :-) Oh and who has a toddler who just up and changed their sleep pattering…mine has started going bed every night around 1-130am. *oh hells nawl she didn’t!* Can you say 1 step away from Nyquil dipped nips! Lol. Such is the life of a toddler.

I still work with new mommies at WIC helping them to start and maintain a breastfeeding relationship. *LOVE, LOVE, LOVE my job* Its a passion of mine to get our african american moms breastfeeding and helping to bring down our infant mortality rate. Oh, and since I love my job so, guess what?….its not work any more to me. How awesome is that!

Other extras in my life include my training as a labor doula. But I have been doing mostly postpartum doula. I enjoy going over my clients house and making them comfortable and relaxed. After having a baby, nothing feels more better coming home come to clean house, a few meals prepared and frozen, babies room organized, moms bedroom full of clean lines and to top it off a wonderful foot soak and pedicure.

As much as I love being a moms labor support, being oncall with a 2yr old is a bit trying. So I’m moving forward with postpartum work for new moms in my spare time.

I’ve also found and IBCLC & a midwifery course I will be starting with in the next few months…. Goals – IBCLC by 2013 (latest 2014)…….Midwife Apprentice *fingers crossed* 2014 ……offically a Midwife in practice 2017-18…. :-)

So do you have your boots on?.. What have changed for you lately?….. New career, new baby, did you move, are a you WOHM turned SAHM, are you newly single and loving it? :-).

~Talk to Me, Ill Talk Back~

You’ve skated long enough! (Child Support Vent)

*posted from cell, 4 give the typos*

My childrens father have worked at the same resturant for some years now. Sometime ago I stop recieveing child support. I was under the impression he had stop working there. He was going thru some things (which I gave less than a real fuck about, cause as a single mama I go thru things all the time but I don’t take a vacation and stop caring for my kids)… So I chaulked it up, and figured until he until he gets back to working child support will take it out again. My friend went to eat where we thought he USE to work at and low and behold the bastard was there, cooking up a storm. She imm called me and told me. I called the friend of court, sat on hold 45min before even talking to someone, then they told me they still have the child support order in place, (translation, child support should have NEVER stopped) read back to me the name of the job on the order, stated they don’t know why I haven’t received anything, and said they would reissue the order again imm, and that the resturant had 45days to comply. Friend of the court also let me know its ILLEGAL for a company to disregard a income withholding order for a employee. So I called up to his job and asked for their corp number to speak to someone in regards to the lawsuit I would be filing against their company for back child support they refused to deduct out of his check all this time. I faxed over the income with holding I had received a copy of from 2yrs ago and let them know a new one was on the way. I also faxed copies of my child support issued debit visa card statements showing 0$ balances and the last payment I received from him which was during a period he worked for them. They tried to claim they didn’t receive such a order….so I explained to them that for whatever reason they “lost” the order and stop taking it out and I am still owed that money, once its proven they had the order and ignored it. (I have the patience of a snail. I can wait this thing out. The truth will prevail) So I have to wait 30 days to give them a chance to investigate and see “what happen” to the child support order they were honoring up until they stopped……moral of the long post is…..

There are too many men getting off scott fucking free and are holding jobs. Legit jobs that give them a check and take taxes out. I don’t know if there giving good penis or bomb ass head to the HR folks or what, but they (the job) are bound by law to deduct that money. So the far the deadbeats getting paid “under the table” which for them will backfire (are able to skate) so to speak. Dumbasses are not planning for the future. Cause we all know, not having social security and taxes took out, because they don’t want there checks touched, (translation, they won’t want “the man” making them take care their kids, since they can’t do it on their own) mean they will grow old and not have 1 penny to help them out in there olden years. Too bad for they dumb asses. however I for one will not sit by and let the shit slide. To the best of my abilty I will continue to advocate for my child support if I get it given me in a reasonable fashion on his own. These kids were NOT created because of some strong masturbation. Since we both made them we both need to provide for them, one way or the other.

Thanks for letting me vent a little.

*UPDATE*

I’m happy to report child support has kicked in. I was asked could I go to court and drop 50% of the back pay. Um, (let me think for a mintue) NO…HELL NO. That is all.

25$ Cash #GiveAWAY!!

I’m giving away 25$ cash and a Breastfeeding Goodie Sample Bag!

Up for grabs will be $25.00 issued thru http://paypal to be used as you like on breastfeeding supplies of whatever you want. That of course will be issued in 24 hours of winning.
Then there will be a SAMPLE GOODIE bag with of a varity of breastfeeding items. Such as a simple nursing bracelet, , mother milk tea samples and much more! This will be mailed out to you.
To enter this Giveaway tell us what you are doing to promote breastfeeding this week. *Simple huh?* It could simple be, breastfeeding in public. Your pregnant and attending breastfeeding support groups. You helped get your church (or some other place) to be breastfeeding friendly. These are just a few examples of promoting breastfeeding awareness.

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HELL ON EARTH IS REAL

Let me say this, the Cassie Anthony case has stirred emotions in everyone, everywhere. My opinion is this, regardless what we may feel (she guilty or not) this woman was tried and judged by a jury of her peers who was presented evidence that after they reviewed it and heard everything, did not convict her.

Saying that to say this…..I feel those that are threating to kill her, and have made death threats at people who “share” her name and “look” like her are WRONG. Why isn’t any trying to go after the jurors? They set her free? Right. Im just saying.

You can feel how you wanna feel, that’s your right, my right (personally I think she guilty, but I wasnt on the case) no one can change your right to feel how you want, HOWEVER why try to harm this woman (who was found innocent, REGARDLESS of what we feel) and then end possibly end up in jail away from your own family. Why would anyone risk that. Thats all I’m saying.

Did you see on the news the woman who was ran over with a car because a woman THOUGHT she was Anthony! Aint that a bitch! Now this woman who favors her is in the hospital injured, and could been killed taken away from her kids, all because someone wanna play God. The lady who tried to run her over is in jail. Away from her family. And for what?

Then too if she was so guilty how in the hell did she get found innocent? What did the jury see, that we didnt?…Tho it boggles the mind how a innocent verdict came everyone still needs to be aware of the consequences that could come upon them if they do anything to this woman. Her life is gonna be hell, just on the fact, who will hire her? Who will rent to her? Who will be friends with her? The moment she was released her LITERAL HELL ON EARTH BEGAN.

F U friggin Greys Anatomy & Criminal Minds

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Maybe I should not have ever made a Twitter and I wouldn’t be in the position I am in now. Yeah passing the bucket is childish but hey, take it or leave it folks. See before I even knew what a Twitter was I was a normal person. I went about my daily tasks with no worries and watch the normal mundane mess on tv. Slowly but surely I started to pay attention to tweets about #Greys and #CriminalMinds. That was the beginning of the end.

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 I watched one episode of each and I’ve been hooked. I mean hooked like a fish that got caught slipping in the pond of  ill repute.  Do you really know what that means? Now when either of the shows come on I stop life and all that it holds. Dinner, (what are frigging kidding me you know it’s a ramen noodle night, or if you feeling fancy add some diced fried bologna in it) can’t stand when the kids get all needy in shit when for nourishment. Oh and Homework, ( just google it dear, or Wikipedia it you’ll be fine) foreal  *side eye like a mug* you don’t really think your education is more important than me watching the two tv shows the twitter gods have bestowed upon me. Judge me not people I am only following the path I must cause both those shows are so damn good! Every episode I’m always left with my mouth hanging open like either ” awww” or just “dam WTF”.

So to the makers of Greys Anatomy and Criminal Minds F U! You have no right to develop such story lines that keep me interested week to week and have me threating to throat chop anyone under the age of 18 and over the age of 12 months who disturbs me. You’ve made me what I have become, (well only when those to shows are on.)

Okay im so lying! I LOVE you ABC and CBS for allowing me to be able to throat chop the kids just because they breathed to loud while my favorite show was on. Keep up the good work.

So tell me folks, is there a show you must and no one is allowed to disturb you?

 

Changed my mind

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Last one there is a rotten egg!!!!

~Single Mama Tales It All~

I was going to stop blogging over here period but every time I tried to hit the delete button I could do it. I don’t know why. I felt like I was getting rid of a friend. That sounds stupid don’t it? Maybe it is. And if it is than oh well cause I’m still going to post over here.

Thinking I could use this blog as for say what the hell I want and keep the other blog “friendly” so to speak. Just for now I’m going to be posting to both and going with the flow.

Do You know were your Money Is?

This post brought to you by Ashworth College. All opinions are 100% mine.

Before I started blogging about 7 months ago I didn’t really “get’ why people blogged. So I started reading the blogs I ran across to see what they were about. A lot of blogs I came across were just for  fun and a outlet for expression. There were blogs that discussed everything from daily parenting tips, the fun mishaps about their day and tons of giveaways. Some blogs offered services for buying candles, chocolates,baby clothes, and tons of other things any and everyone would want and could use.

That got me to thinking that maybe I could be a blogger too.  For me blogging has become a hobby. Along with some blogging I have made some money. Mostly enough to fill up a tank of gas, buy a few diapers and get some groceries.  With the economy being so crappy getting a few extra dollars blogging has been a help.

However since I have been blogging I realize there still have tons to learn. That is why when I saw a online course Ashworth College was offering called a  Professional Blogging Career Diploma, it sparked  interest. This course offered everything I needed to produce a professional blog of my own and help promote someone else blog or maybe even a company.

That is when the question hit me “do you know were your money is”  cause quite possibly its staring you in the face. Ashworth College seems like the college to make that happen. The Professional Blogging Career Diploma will teach you how to create, publish, mange and promote any type blog, vlog, podcast, or webcast. They offer the latest blogging techniques from knowledgeable instructors with many years experience in their field.

Ashworth College is committed to helping anyone interested in taking their blogging to the next level. Included in the tuition is 1 year hosting for your blog, and access to Ashworth online affiliates to populate your with display advertising from well-established brand name companies. These a just a few awesome perks they offer.

When you get a chance check  Ashworth College and speak to a very informed customer service representative who is eager to answer your questions for more information.

So again I ask you, Do You Know were Your Money Is? It might very well being sitting right in front of you.

Spring is in the air!

This post brought to you by Pier 1. All opinions are 100% mine.

I am usually not a spring person. For me it is always about summer. However, since moving into my new place and getting a balcony, the spring bug has bite me. Right now the only thing out there now is a dead plant. Time to make my area all cute. So I  looking at furniture pieces I usually pay no attention to when I’m out.

Pier 1 was one of the many places I stopped and checked out. I walked around and really started to to take notice of  the real nice  things they carry. What caught my eye the most, is the furniture that can double as indoor and outdoor. To me this only makes shopping more fun. You aren’t limited. I saw a  clearance section full of cute and sheek rugs, mirrors and sculptures that would accent my patio as well as my living room. The pricing was reasonable as well. Total win-win for me.

Some of my favorite pieces were the Iconic Papasan collection. The Swingasan (sku 2434820), the Double Papasan Chair (sku 2443887,2443874), and the Rockasan Chair (sku 2440357,2440360)  were some of my top favorite must haves. These pieces would be a must indoors or outdoors. I also saw a Ciudad Corner Chair (sku 2437338 a Pier 1 exclusive) which is on my to get list for my teen. I envisioned her sitting Indian leg style in that chair using her laptop. She would really like that chair. It was cube style, modern and different. Teens like things with originality and that chair has all of that.

When I got home I went to Pier 1 website to continue “window” shopping and love the ease of navigating around their site and the many online specials. They even have there Easter decor sale going on to make it easy to decorate the house just in time for the holiday.

Pier 1 is also hosting some Pier 1 Tweetups. Its a event were bloggers and tweeters meet up and of course do some shopping! You can go to IZEA for more information on when there coming to a city near you.

So are you ready for spring? I would love to know what were some of your favorites and must haves that you found on Pier 1 website or if you shopped in person.

You still Breastfeeding?

How many times must I be asked that. Okay this post is for *you* and you know who you are.

  Yes she is 15 months and yes we are STILL BREASTFEEDING. I never envisioned myself a breastfeeding mom. Let alone working for WIC as a Breastfeeding Peer Counselor. Oh and lets not forget I converted to cloth diapers. Like Woa!  I was that one that thought that cloth diapers was for poor people (who the hell was I to judge anyone and little did I know cloth diapers aren’t THAT cheap,*glad I matured from that mentality*) and I was that one that said “eww breastfeeding nasty, I don’t want no baby sucking on my tit’s plus, I wont be able to have sex cause milk will be everywhere, and I don’t want people talking about me.” Foolishness I tell ya. Young dumb and fulla cum. Looking back almost 18 yrs ago when I had my first child I realize I wasnt as mature as I thought I was. Prided myself always on knowing it all. But look at what I DIDNT know. First and foremost, Breastmilk is the healthiest thing to give a human baby. I could carry on about the other well-known benefits of BF but we know them. Basically I was just taking stock in were I am and how I got here. And how much I truly LOVE my job, and I’m so happy I didn’t pass on a chance to experience BF and giving my Muffin the wonderful benefits of the milk she is made to have. My very good friend Tina and the ever evolving world of  Twitter. If you don’t have a Twitter get one. My good friend Tina was and is awesome. She is currently BE her second child is always a great support and wonderful example of a young mama who refused formula and is planet earth friendly. She might even be even be using cloth diapers soon.  Much love for my Twitter moms who always are a tweet away with answer or word of encouragement. I’m very happy to still be breastfeeding at 15 months with no end in sight as many moms put it. Sometimes it can be trying when Muffin wants to nurse while were driving and the stupid ass truck next to us scared her to death with its noise. Then she screams the entire way home, pulling at my shirt as i get her out the car seat so she can be saved and comforted. Or when I start to vacuum and scare the crap out of her, she screams…I nurse….she fine again. Repeat. ;-)  And you know what, I don’t mind it one bit. So to those who toot their nose up, pass their judgement, make snide low-key remarks, ask questions just to be a smart ass and try to disrespectfully dismiss breastfeeding moms….GET OVER IT. Get over it quick I tell ya, or I will cuss ya out the fudge out. *I’ll pray first, since im working on my cussing* I am NOT one to pussy foot around and be disrespected about my breastfeeding. I didn’t forget I formula feed my first 3. Muffin got formula for a few months as well, until we mastered the BF.  You always had a negative comment about why I don’t just formula feed, when I was going to that rough patch, and kept  meeting with Peer Counselor Renee and going to the LC at Sinai Grace meeting with Linda.  Its cause I wanted breastfeeding to WORK so I made the effort at it and it went in my favor. I know there are plenty moms who made the EFFORT 100% to breastfeed and it just didn’t work out. I applaud them and don’t dismiss them or make them feel like shit cause they didn’t breastfeed or pump. However saying little stuff indirectly about me is NOT needed and NOT appreciated. So take this as a warning that our friendship will end immediately if one more snide remarks, directly or indirectly come up again.  ~Toodles~

I won in the Mega Millions pool! You didn’t play in the pool that week. Shame on you.

I almost always blog via my cell so forgive the link and not the article right here for you all to read. http://abclocal.go.com/kabc/story?section=news/national_world&id=8046481

Possible thoughts of the co workers who opted not to play in the pool that week…”Let get right to it, they won my money. I usually always play and that money should of been mine. I ALWAYS PLAY!”
Did you guys see the news about the NY co workers who won the 300milion plus jackpot? Did you see the ones coming forward cause they “usually play” but didn’t and feel they need they cut?
Well, I could be jumping the gun on this but I see some bullshit brewing.
Co workers who play lottery pools are usually die hard about playing. They play weekly and sometimes more than once during the week. Win or lose they about they buisness of the lottery.

More than likely as the news progress we will find out why those co-workers didn’t play that week. In the mean time one of the ones who passed on playing for sure has come forward to the news. *scratches head*

Why? Why did anyone BUT the winners feel they need to come forward? Come forward to say ” I didn’t play damm”, cause that’s about all I see they NEED to say. Yet I heard on the radio the ones who didn’t play that week feel they are owed a cut. A “cut”?……a cut of WHAT?

If you didn’t play you didn’t win. I’m almost sure when they decided to do a lottery pool, there wasn’t and written or verbal agreement saying “look it don’t matter if you play…just long as you have played with us before, if our numbers fall you still get paid”. Um no! Theys not reality. You didn’t play….you didn’t win. Your co workers won and don’t owe you a DIME! Not in good faith either. They don’t owe the losers.

Hopefully the coworkers who didn’t play don’t take this court and tie of the money. Going on my shabby memory, this has happen before. Some folks forgot to play and they coworkers hit and wanted they “cut”. It went to court, and I think they lost. If anyone knows for sure please feel free to correct me.

Personally I think that the people that won MIGHT just throw them a lil somin’ somin. Just on the strength. HOWEVER let me be clear. THEY DON’T HAVE TOO AND DON’T OWE THE ONES WHO DIDN’T PLAY, A FRIGGIN DIME! Should one or all decide to give the coworkers who decided not to play a few dollars, then that’s wonderful. Hopefully the ones who opted out don’t get to feeling like “they better” give them money and it must be a equal share.

Me personally, (I can’t speak for the others who won but I think they might do this or give more) I would give 5,000$ to the 5 to split, who opted out. Yes I said a mear 5,000$ from my 19million. Something is better than nothing, considering you NOT OWED NOTHING. Oh and let me say this, that hot 5,000$ would be based the atitude of ones who didn’t play. Get to talking smack and threating court, you would get nadda!

Hopefully the ones who didn’t play don’t try to pull the tears and its hard out here card. Well it was hard for all the co workers, hence I’m sure the reason the lottery pool so they all could be rich together. ( I don’t know that to be a fact, I’m just guessing.)

Wait, just had a brain fart…..I take that back I wouldn’t give the ones who opted out anything. Maybe (real big maybe) later, after I bathed nakid in the money for a few days. I have to take care my kids first and get us squared away. The tickets are only 1.00$. The winners of this lottery were employed. They decided to not get that one cup of coffe or Mt. Dew from the vendor machine to make sure they played every week. (Or how ever many times they played) So shame on the ones who decided not to play. I understand when you don’t win its a waste. I lose all the time when I play, but you know what?….I get that change out the bottom of my purse and play.

So the ones who missed out IT IS, WHAT IT IS…and don’t be bitter. Let the winners bask in the glory and have there moment. Don’t assume they all have to give you some money just cause you “always use to play and had been playing for years”. That’s NOT right to me. You didn’t play and knew the risk. There’s always that “what if” we hit moment. Well by golly, the “what if” DID happen and Y’ALL DIDN’T play. Its NOT the ones fault who won. I’m hoping friendships don’t be lost over this massive win. Usually that’s what happen. Its sad but its reality.

What are y’all thoughts on this? If you were one of the winners, would you automatically share with the ones who decided NOT to play that week?…..would you handle your buisness first and then share?…..would you say “fair is fair”, I played I won?….

Okay later guys ~Toodles~